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How do you weigh in on the Vance-couch conversation?

10.06.2025 00:16

How do you weigh in on the Vance-couch conversation?

It’s a creative form of masturbation that may feel pretty darn good.

I don’t see what’s wrong with banging couches.

Masturbation isn’t bad. It provides most of the benefits of sex, many of which actively improve human health, with zero risk of disease or pregnancy. It is an objectively good thing that most of us ought to do more often. Not for pleasure, though pleasure is also good, but for our health.

How can I get my ex-husband to love me again?

Vance didn’t, or that’s the story. And honestly, I believe it. He’s a bit too uptight for that sort of thing.

Decadent Girl by Ramon Casas. Public domain.

This, if he’d done it, would be perfectly okay.

I like this guy and his personality is AMAZING. He’s everything I want EXCEPT I’m not 100% attracted to him. I’ve dated some really hot guys and I’m wondering if that’s ruined dating for me? What do I do?

We need to stop shaming people for healthy activities they do in the privacy of their own homes.

But what if he had? Why are we shaming him for this? Why would we shame anyone for this?

Creativity is also good, especially as the story would cause no harm to the couch and didn’t involve any direct contact with it. There’s no ick factor here, just a young person having fun in a way that doesn’t harm or impose upon anyone else.

Can the right person make a narc want to change their ways? Is love that powerful? Has anyone seen this or experience it?